What’s In A Friendship?

I remember the day I realized my Facebook friends consisted of old and new friends, colleagues, and family. My initial reaction was one of horror and despair. The horror was in realizing being myself with one set of “friends” might not be as well understood, or as welcome, by those who were in another set of my “friends.” I was paralyzed, but only momentarily.

Since then I’ve come to accept (or should I say I’ve come to realize my “friends” must accept) the diversity of relationships and viewpoints we all have. Perhaps it is partly because I am not at the beginning of my career, but much closer to the end, and – therefore – I have little need to worry about impressing an HR department. My professional experience is long and varied, running the gamut from very small (2-3 employees) businesses to large (100K plus employees), multi-national corporations. My accomplishments stand on their own and, besides, my main interest is in small business now.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t wish to offend anybody, but I really don’t want to worry too much about somebody not agreeing with or liking what I have to say. If you are a friend of mine, it means I find something valuable in what you have to offer. If we all thought alike, how would we learn anything . . . ever?

So, please forgive me if I offend. My political and religious views are far from mainstream, but I’ve arrived at them through many years of thought, study, and introspection. I am probably far more aware of the intricacies of mainstream thought than others are aware of those I adhere to, yet I have lived quite comfortably with them. I hope you’ll do the same for me. Can’t we all just get along? =;^D

About Rick Ladd

I retired nearly 13 years ago, though I've continued to work during most of the time since then. I'm hoping to return to work on the RS-25 rocket engine program (formerly the SSME) which will power our return to the moon. Mostly I'm just cruising, making the most of what time I have remaining. Although my time is nearly up, I still care deeply about the kind of world I'll be leaving to those who follow me and, to that end, I am devoted to seeing the forces of repression and authoritarianism are at least held at bay, if not crushed out of existence. I write about things that interest me and, as an eclectic soul, my interests run the gamut from science to spirituality, governance to economics, art and engineering. I'm hopeful one day my children will read what I've left behind. View all posts by Rick Ladd

7 responses to “What’s In A Friendship?

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  • cybermagnetik

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    • Rick Ladd

      Thank you, whoever you are, for the effusive praise. While I am somewhat suspicious of this comment, and Askimet flagged it as spam, I am leaving it here because it doesn’t quite fit the model of virtually all the spam I get on my blog. I’m afraid I don’t quite believe my writing is either rare or skillful, the lack of spelling and grammatical errors in your comment is indicative, to me, of its genuineness. Therefore, I haven’t removed it. I hope you have subscribed to at least this thread and will come back and tell me more about yourself. The link I was taken to tells me little, as I don’t read Cyrillic. Thanks again. Very high praise, indeed.


  • Trisha Liu

    Rick, thanks for this post! When I was first starting out on Twitter and Facebook, I considered having separate accounts to keep work and personal connections separate. I did not choose that route, and I am glad. It has been fun to see the intersection of relationships and personalities. Particularly on Facebook – sometimes friends from different circles comment on the same thread, and comment on each other’s post even though they have not met. Serendipity, openness, good stuff.


    • Rick Ladd

      Thanks, Trisha. I have always had a hard time separating (not entirely) my personal life from my professional life. When you dream of your work (and it’s not nightmares, but inspirational), you know you’re integrated. I’ve also heard and used the term “the personal is political” and I think they need to be integrated as well. As I move toward the final act of my journey, my intention is to present myself as a fully integrated human; personal, professional, political, and philosophical (and think the latter is better – at least for me – than religious, plus it carries the alliteration forward 😉


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