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Shopping During the Apocalypse

While looking for something else, I stumbled upon this piece I wrote going on four years ago. It holds together, so I thought I would share it even though its current relevance is questionable. It was written in April of 2020. Consider it an historical document. :0)

I admit it. I’ve gone shopping during our state’s (California) lockdown. For groceries; only groceries. It’s difficult to lay in a month or so’s supply of perishables like bananas (which my youngest thrives on), eggs, and milk. Things like that.

In the past, B.C.V., before Corona Virus, shopping for us was pretty ad hoc. Although we made lists, we had separate ones for Trader Joe’s, Vons, and Smart & Final. We also shopped occasionally at Sprout’s, Stater Brothers, Ralph’s, and a local mom and pop called Green Acres. We would go at least three, sometimes four times a week to pick up fresh produce, dairy, and re-stock our cupboard and freezer. Actually, I forgot to mention Costco which, last time I went (just before the State was locked down) was a freaking nightmare.

So, I’m now basically shopping only once a week, but there are some things we’d like to have available that generally aren’t carried by all of the stores, which is why we normally go to more than one during any given week. This is making it a bit difficult to hold down the trips to only one. In the past week, I went three times.

Inasmuch as I’m nearly 73 years old and have numerous comorbidities (none of which are acute, but they’re active and I take meds for two of them) I’m reluctant to leave the house. However, I’m even more reluctant to expose my wife or daughters to the danger of infection. My oldest has had lung issues when she was a toddler and my understanding is the disease can leave survivors with impaired lung function. I would rather risk my health than hers . . . or my other daughter’s . . . I’ve had a wonderfully rich, often exciting life and they’ve got a long way to go. My wife’s lungs are worse than mine, so I don’t have to balance anything with the decision for her to stay indoors.

I was pleased last week to find that Trader Joe’s, like most local markets, was reserving one hour each morning for those considered more vulnerable. The way they have approached it is to form two lines; one for the elderly, immuno-compromised, and pregnant women (they say nothing about pregnant men; guess that would be another story!) and one for everyone else. They only allow twenty shoppers at a time in the store so, each time the 20 who were shopping are finished, a worker sends in 10 from each line. Last week I was handed a disinfectant wipe upon entry, which I used to clean the cart handle and my hands.

The store was stocked to the gills. I had never seen it so full of just about everything they normally carry. Lots of fresh veggies and fruits, frozen food almost spilling out of the cases, eggs fully loaded, and plenty of dairy, meat, etc. Lots of alcohol as well. I was in and out in about 15 minutes. The lack of crowding means it’s easy to maintain distance from other shoppers. It also makes checking out go quickly and smoothly.

This past Monday, when I returned for my weekly trip, I wasn’t handed a wipe, though I’ve become adept at not touching my face until I return home, unpack and put away the groceries, and ever so thoroughly wash my hands . . . after which I can scratch every damned phantom itch that was plaguing me from the moment I entered the store! I also wore a mask this time, which I found in the garage. It’s an N95, which I purchased about a year ago, when I was doing some woodworking and needed to ensure I wasn’t inhaling sawdust as I was sanding my project. I did feel a wee tad guilty about having the kind of mask that HCWs are having a hard time finding these days, but I got over it.


My How I’ve Changed!

I just realized … of all the ways in which this pandemic has changed me, the biggest difference between now and a little over a year ago is … it’s turned me into an introvert. Linda used to complain that we were always the last to leave a party, which was true as I loved engaging not only my friends and relatives, but anybody who was interesting and willing to discuss a huge range of subjects.

I’m one of those people who readily starts up conversations with strangers; at least I used to be that kind of person. I’m not so sure anymore. I’ve gotten so accustomed to staying home and reaching out through Facebook, Twitter, and my blog that I no longer feel much of a need to get out of the house and do something.

OTOH, there is a part of me that’s kind of chomping at the bit; anxious to get back to the way things were, at least in terms of being able to go grocery shopping or eating out, etc. I’m fully vaccinated and, as most of my friends know, was infected with—and recovered from—Covid this past January. I’m about as safe as I’m going to be. I will continue to wear a mask when grocery shopping, but will also be looking for opportunities to go maskless.

Me and Alyssa at the gym

I have returned to the gym, along with my buddy, Steve, and my daughter, Alyssa. I don’t wear a mask when I’m there and neither does anyone else. I don’t participate in classes and work out on my own. I stay away from others and the gym has several overhead fans which move the air downward. Right now I’m trying to get back to lifting the weights I was working out with before everything shut down, as well as doing the amount of different exercises I had the stamina for last year. I expect it will take a bit longer at my age than it would have, say, thirty years ago, but I believe it will add to the time I have left on this planet.

Inasmuch as I’m seriously working on a memoir of my experiences becoming a first-time father five years after AARP got me in their sights, I expect to continue spending a lot of my time where I’m sitting right now. I’ve begun communicating with friends we traveled and spent time with in order to get their perspective and to help jar my memory of things in which we all participated.

Now I find myself wondering if I’ll retain some of these introvert tendencies. I learned a long time ago how to be alone without being lonely, and I’m quite comfortable with who I am and the path I’m on, but I am looking forward to how things will change once both of my girls are more fully on their own. Time (the thing I don’t have a great deal of at this point) will tell. I’ve often said I needed to live long enough to get the girls to adulthood, but I’d really like to live long enough to enjoy them as adults for a while. I’m shooting for at least 90, giving me 16 more years. Who knows, maybe I can make it to 100, which nobody in my family has ever reached. Maybe I’ll start surfing again at 80.


Now I’m getting excited for the future!


A Guy Can Dream, Eh?

Last night I dreamed I was grocery shopping. It’s not like I haven’t done so in the past few weeks. I think it’s because, unlike the past, when I could just stop into a store to pick up a few things, and a lot of our shopping was ad hoc, now we have to carefully plan and resign ourselves to not getting some of the things we’d like to have because it’s just too risky to be out there.

Last Monday (not yesterday Monday) I hit Trader Joe’s early, when us old folk are given an early hour to avoid the crush, picking up just about everything I figured we needed for the week. On Thursday, I had to take my youngest to her high school, where they were allowing kids a half hour—staggered, so there weren’t too many kids there at once—to empty their lockers. Afterwards, we hightailed it to Smart & Final to grab a few things we can’t get at Trader Joe’s.

That’s been it. However, I’ve been constantly thinking about how and when I need to get more groceries. It’s difficult to get a month’s worth of food, especially perishables, and especially when you haven’t done anything like it in your entire life. I think that accounts for the dream. It’s just on my mind more than it has ever been in the past.